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The girlfriends that have been with you through thick and thin; your closest relatives how have always been by your side; the people who you make you smile even when life is turned upside down. These are just a few ways to describe the women that you will ultimately choose as your bridesmaids, who will stand up with you as you walk down the aisle on your special day.
Some brides have trouble choosing who they should invite to be their bridesmaid. Many of us have close friends and relatives who mean a lot to us - maybe too many to choose from!
Here are a few general guidelines and things to think about before asking someone to be in your wedding party.
- Are they responsible? Can you rely on them in a pinch? You will need someone to help you organize events, help you to plan and be your emotional support system. Your bridesmaids will hopefully be willing and able to help with everything!
- How close are they to you? Can you trust them? You will pick someone who knows you really well and can sense your mood - whether you are frustrated, stressed our, excited, or just plain tired.
- Will they be able to afford it? A lot of time and money goes into planning a wedding - from the dresses and shoes, to the gifts and bridal shower, to the bachorlette party and more. It's a lot of ask someone to be in a wedding, emotionally and financially wise!
I've narrowed my list down, but what can I do to involve my other girlfriends who I did not ask? I want them to be a part of my day!
Here are a few ideas to involve your other close friends and relatives in your wedding.
Have them read a special passage or poem at your reception.
Give them a job to do! Ask them to ask your guests to fill out your guestbook. Another friend can hand out programs to all the guests as them come to the ceremony. You can also have them light candles before the ceremony.
Your friends or family can also be asked to be usherettes and help guide people to their seats along with the ushers.
Have your friend help plan or decorate a part of the wedding - she can help make favors, design table numbers and more. Just make sure she's willing to do it and wants to help out!
Bridesmaid Style & Dress
Choosing a dress for your bridesmaid can be a tricky thing especially if you have bridesmaid of different shapes and sizes. You want to choose something that will be flattering for all of them, something they can afford (if you are asking them to pay for their dresses) and something that will fit into your wedding.
Pick a couple of different styles of dresses and have your bridesmaid vote for their favorite one. You could also forgo matching dresses and have each of your bridesmaid pick their own favorite style of dress with a specific designer and each dress will be the same color but with altering styles. If you're worried about your bridesmaid shelling out the money for something they might not wear again, considering having them dress in a skirt-top or 2 piece combination set. Two pieces may be more likely worn again by your bridesmaids rather than a more formal or semi-formal gown.
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