To Do or Not to Do: The Cash Bar

The cash bar might be something you are considering for your wedding reception as a cost effective means to save some money in your budget for your wedding. If you are perfectly fine with breaking the rules and ignoring any remarks, go ahead with the cash bar. Some guests may feel it's rude or inconsiderate to not have an open bar at your wedding, but after all, it is your wedding. One solution that many couples are opting for is to include a 2 drink tickets for your guests. Many feel that 2 drinks per person is a reasonable and responsible amount for an evening and if they would like more drinks, they can pay for any additional beverages. This may even promote responsible drinking and help your guests to not overdo it. If you do decide to have a cash bar though, be sure to warn your guests with a little note on your invitation under the reception information (the words "Cash Bar" should be sufficient), letting them know about the cash bar in advance so they will be prepared and not taken by surprise at your reception.

Guests, Showers, Receptions and You

All guests that come to your wedding shower should also be invited to your wedding. It can be hurtful and considered impolite to invite guests to your shower who are not invited to your wedding as well. Exceptions to the rule may be for destination weddings or office wedding showers.

Inviting Children to Your Wedding

When planning for your wedding, you may decide that you do not want to invite children to your wedding or reception for whatever reason. It is impolite to address your invitations as "No Children". Instead, you should put something to the effect of "Adult Reception" or "Adults Only Reception". Another way to tactful handle the situation is to include on your response cards "2 seats have been set aside for you". You can also let your family and friends know of your plans and let them help spread the word of your desires for your reception. If you are not inviting any children, it is considered in bad taste to make exceptions for children in your wedding party. It may be best to leave out children from your wedding party if you do not want children at your reception.

Requesting Wedding Gifts

It is considered in questionable taste to make any mention of gifts on your invitations. If you have special requests (such as cash only, saving up for something in particular, or are registered at a particular store), the best course is to inform your family and close friends of your wishes. That way, if any guests inquire, they will be able to let guests know of your wishes in the way of gifts.