San Diego Wedding Insider -- San Diego Wedding Questions and Answers

We're on a tight budget and need to cut down our guest list a bit. Is it okay for us to specify who can bring a date to our wedding? We don't want to be rude to anyone.
It's your wedding, so always remember you can do what you like! It is perfectly okay for you to only invite friends or family and ask that they not bring a date if it is out of your budget. A good rule of thumb you may want to go by is that people may bring a guest only if they are living with someone, are married, or are in your bridal party. If anyone asks about the policy, you can tell them you're having a small, intimate wedding.
Who should we invite to our wedding? We both know a lot of people and we're not sure where we can cut down on our guest list to make everyone happy.
Some areas to start cutting back on your guest list would be to not include acquaintances, distant relatives, or co-workers. Your everyday acquaintances or friends who you are in touch with but aren't close to do not need to be invited to your wedding. This is the same for distant relatives, like your third cousin, who you met only a few times over the years. Your co-workers, though you see them everyday, also don't need to be invited unless you are particularly close with them. You want to share your special day with the people who the mean the most to you, not people you see occasionally and are not really close to.
Should his/her ex be invited to the wedding?
The bottom line on this topic is your ex should not be invited to the wedding if it will make your partner uncomfortable. If you plan on being friends or are friends with your ex, then you should invite them to foster the relationship, including you and your partner and your ex's partner (if they have one). If there are no plans for further friendship, then do not invite them. Ultimately, you and your partner need to discuss it now before you get married to know where things stand and if you can agree on the issue.